Many guys and their lovers for that matter, do not have at their fingertips a variety of cock massage strokes.
Most guys touch their cock with only one massage stroke that makes them come quick.
Unfortunately, this leads to the dreaded premature ejaculaton when they have sex.
By using more cock strokes and making sure you spend a lot more time in self pleasuring, you will train your system for more intense pleasure.
I feel one needs to expand ones capacity for pleasure by streaching our pleasure before you come.
The Cock Massage Strokes
After you have connected with your partner through stretching and conscious
breathing, give him a long, nurturing, warm oil massage of the back, legs and arms.
Allow your awareness to be in your hands. Let him know by the quality of your touch
that there is nowhere else you would rather be, that there is no one else you would rather
1/ CARESS AND VIBRATE
This form of Taoist Erotic Massage is focused on the genitals and the front of the
torso. Begin by gently resting your hands on your partner’s heart center (between the
nipples) and genital area. Take three comfortable breaths together. Remember this
massage is about charging the body with erotic, life force energy. Charging the body with
erotic energy is a taboo in our culture that normally uses sex like it uses alcohol ¬ to
celebrate and to sedate.
Let your fingertips caress the whole front of the body. By the quality of your touch,
let your partner know that you are massaging every level of his being. Try to keep one
hand vibrating and massaging genital area as your other hand dances and plays from the
feet to the head. Massage circles on the belly and chest. Rock and roll the arms and legs. I
often squeeze the tips of each finger and tow, the beginnings and endings of the
meridians, the pathways of energy.
Wake up the genital area with light tugging of the pubic hair, vibrating of the pubic
bone and fondling of the balls.
2. ANOINTING WITH OIL
In many cultures of the world dating back thousands of years, anointing with oil
was a special ritual of honoring. With every stroke, let your partner know he is special
among all your relations. Start by oiling the genital area and the corridor up to the heart.
Then oil the whole front of the body. Rather than squirting oil directly onto your partner,
put the oil on your hands and then on to his body. Since the tissues of the magic wand are
very sensitive, too much oil there is better than too little oil. Use more oil where there is
more hair. Be sure to oil the perineum.
Experiment with oils. I like coconut oil because it is light, unscented, and it washes
out of sheets, towels and clothes with hot water. Many vegetable oils stain sheets and
During the whole massage, try to keep at least one hand on the genital area at all
times, continuously generating ching chi. Make sure the man receiving has his eyes
closed for the massage. And make sure that you are guiding him in his breathing.
3. COCK SHIATSU
Shiatsu is a Japanese word meaning “finger pressure.” With your thumb and first
finger squeeze up and down the magic want, both front and back and sides. This rhythmic
stroke begins to wake up the inner tissues of the magic wand.
4. ROCK AROUND THE CLOCK
Once this massage begins, most men are willing to receive all day and all night. So
I call this stroke Rock Around the Clock. The magic wand pointing toward the belly
button is 12 o’clock. Alternate your hands sensuously and slowly rubbing the magic
wand around the clock. Make sure you are massaging both the magic wand and the body
parts below it.
5. SIX O’CLOCK GOOD NEWS
At 5, 6, and 7 o’clock, wrap your whole hand around the magic want. Take some
extra time at 6 o’clock. This is a favorite position of many men, especially if they are soft
Men receiving, remember that the goal of this massage is not erection or
ejaculation, but full body aliveness ¬ orgasm nourishing every level of being. Most men
find a two-thirds erection to be the most beneficial state in which to receive a Taoist
Erotic Massage. Erections, like the tides, ebb and flow. This is the natural rhythm of
A major technique of this massage is to pull the skin of the magic wand toward the
base, especially if your partner is uncircumcised. This provides a pleasurable variation to
most strokes. Try Rock Around the Clock with the skin of the magic wand pulled toward
6. THE GATES OF CONSCIOUSNESS
Give special attention to the place just below the head on the underside of the magic
wand, and area that contains an intense concentration of nerve endings. This is the place
of visions, the third eye of the magic wand in cock reflexology. Pull this skin taut with
one hand and massage with thumb circles. You can also pinch this skin between your
thumb and index finger and rub and tug.
7. OSHO’S DELIGHT
Cross-country skiing with your thumbs making alternating strokes up and down on
the Gates of Consciousness, I call Osho’s Delights, in honor of one of my teachers. Osho
said that three hours in the full body orgasmic state can heal dysfunctional sexual patterns
forever. He also said that western men are all premature ejaculators ¬ they come before
they make a connection with themselves or with a partner.
8. RAINBOW RUB
Cap the head of the magic wand with your whole hand, your fingers on the top side,
your palm on the tip, the heel of your palm on the gates of consciousness. Squeeze while
rubbing the heel of your palm up and down on the Gates of Consciousness. Some men
see colors with this stroke.
With the magic wand resting on the belly, the heel of your hand closest to the feet
glides up and down the underside with your fingers toward the feet. This area is the spine
in cock reflexology. Pay special attention to the Gates of Consciousness area. This stroke
generates a tremendous amount of erotic energy and frees up the other hand to massage
other parts of the body.
10. THE BIG U
Your hand closest to his feet does the Healing Stroke, while your other hand glides
from one knee up through the belly and down to the other knee. Return and repeat. Use
more pressure on the tops of the thighs, and lighten up on the abdomen.
Variations: Let your hand glide from the knee to the heart area to the other knee
and back while you continue the Healing Stroke. Let the hand closest to the head do the
Healing Stroke while the other hand massages from the inner thigh through the perineum
to the other inner thigh. Repeat.
Man receiving: Invite the energy in hour hips to flow to every part of your body.
Invite this sacred energy to weave you together into wholeness.
11. TWIST AND SHOUT
You twist, he shouts… with ecstasy. Again pull the skin taut toward the base with
one hand and corkscrew your hand up and down the shaft. Cover as much skin as
12. TWIST AND SHOUT / SIX O’CLOCK GOOD NEWS
Twist and Shout with the magic wand pointed towards the feet. This stroke is
especially pleasurable when the man is soft or semi-soft. Slow is better than fast when
your partner is soft. Be sure to use plenty of oil.
13. BELLY CIRCLES
The hand closest to the feet does the Healing Stroke. The other hand does full palm
circles on the abdomen. Massage clockwise if the man receiving has eaten recently. Vary
the speed and pressure. Massaging counterclockwise stirs up powerful male erotic
energy. Make sure both your hands are massaging with the same rhythm.
14. HEART CIRCLES
One hand does the Healing Stroke; the other massages the heart center. The Taoist
name for the point directly between the nipples is the Sea of Tranquility. You are
massaging the places of love. Massage as if they were the same place.
15. NIPPLE CIRCLES
Men’s nipples can be awakened as places of exquisite pleasure. I recommend
massaging lightly with fingernails, then massaging with palm circles.
A major goal of Taoist Erotic Massage is the healing of the heart-genital
connection. When sacred erotic energy is allowed to build up in the hips, it connects to
the heart. Sometimes the energy travels up the back of the body, over the head and down
the front of the body to the heart. Other times it takes the short route through the belly to
Berlin is a sweeping stroke using the forearm on the torso from the upper chest to
the pubic bone. Wipe away all walls between the heart and the genitals. I named this
stroke in Berlin in October 1990, as Germany was reunited. Celebrate the heart-genital
connection. Sweep away the walls with Berlin. The other hand does the Healing Stoke.
17. BELLY BLISS
With Belly Bliss, pleasure the abdomen as you pleasure the Gates of
Consciousness. As one hand pulls the skin of the magic want taut, place the heel of your
other hand on the Gates, fingers toward the heart, and rub. Let your fingers caress the
belly. Often you can get an orbit of energy up the magic wand into the belly at the second
chakra and down to the wand again. Massage round and round.
18. LEG MASSAGE AND HEALING
Everyone loves to have their legs massaged, but most leg massages stop several
inches from the magic wand. Let one hand start near the knee, massaging up to the base
of the magic wand while the other hand does the Healing Stroke. I like to position my
partner’s foot against his opposite knee (Tree position in yoga or Hand Man in Tarot),
and massage the inner thigh and perineum. This is also a great position for Twist and
Shout / Six O’clock Good News.
Another position for leg massage is your partner’s knee in the air, his foot flat on
the table. I try to support his foot with my leg on the table. Furrow with your thumbs
down the thigh muscles, each stroke ending at the base of the magic wand. Rock the leg
muscles. As you put the leg back on the table, support the knee. Do both legs.
19. CORE VIBRATIONS
Vibrate the perineum with the heel of your palm or your fist as your partner
exhales, making a loud sound. Pull his sound all the way down to his root. Sound is a
vibration in the body that can connect with the erotic vibration. As you vibrate, be careful
not to bounce the balls. Massage the perineum and the upper thighs with your fist. Make
sure you use plenty of oil.
20. RING BALLS
Circle the scrotum with your thumb and index finger between the balls and the
body. Make sure the skin is taut. Scratch the balls lightly with fingernails, then massage
with your palm. Be sure to watch your partner’s face for feedback.
Pull the skin down toward the base of the magic wand and juice as you would an
orange this stroke is done mostly with the fingers. Don’t put too much pressure on the
head, just the shaft. And since this is a Taoist Erotic Massage, don’t juice too much. This
is a great stroke to alternate with Twist and Shout. This stroke was taught to me by
another erotic massage pioneer, Ray Stubbs.
22. COCK CRADLING
With the magic wand on the belly, put one hand palm up underneath the magic
wand and your other hand palm down on top, your fingers pointing toward his feet. Glide
your hands back and forth in different directions, enveloping as much of the magic wand
as possible. The back of one hand rubs the lower belly. Vary speed, pressure.
Encourage your partner to let go of expectations of how sex should be or should
feel. He merely has to receive. No thing to do.
With the magic wand pointed straight up, rub with different speeds between your
palms. This is a high friction stroke so be sure to use enough oil. This is a great stroke to
alternate with Cock Cradling. Allow your hands to feel the heat.
With this stroke, I invite male red energy to move throughout my partner’s body.
This energy is the source of our passion, of our creativity.
24. HAIRY PALM SUNDAY
Hold the magic wand in one hand just below the head. Using your well-oiled palm,
slowly massage the head of the wand. The tip is the crown chakra in cock reflexology, so
be very slow and sensitive.
I named this stroke in a class in New York City on Palm Sunday several years ago.
One man got so excited, he shouted, “Hosanna! Blessed is he who comes.” Another man
responded with a line from Psalm 23: “Though I walk in the valley of darkness, no evil
do I fear. You are there with your rod and your staff to comfort me.”
Each stroke starts at the base, wrapping your hand around the magic wand and
gliding up and off at the tip. Alternate, using both hands, stroking the energy up toward
the sky. Repeat again and again. Phallos is the masculine image of the divine. Worship
with your hands.
26. HAND JIVE
Weave your fingers together, taking the magic wand between your palms and
rubbing up and down and back and forth. Hand Jive is actually a hand dance. Make it up
as you go along.
27. CARPE DIEM
Stoke the magic wand toward the heart, and at the same time tug the balls toward
the feet. If your partner’s balls are sensitive, watch his face during this stroke. This is the
very first stroke I ever taught in a class.
Place your second finger between your partner’s eyebrows on the third eye, place
your other second finger at the base of the magic wand on the root chakra / perineum.
Vibrate as if your fingertips are touching each other. Invite your partner to make sounds
on the exhale as you vibrate. An erotic masseur in Holland taught me this stroke.
29. THE BIG DRAW
The man receiving does the Big Draw. The masseur stops touching at this point.
Man receiving: take a full deep breath and hold for twenty seconds. Clench all the
muscles of your body and slightly lift your head and feet. Remember to clench your butt
muscles. If you have any weakness in your lower back, do the Big Draw without lifting
your head or your feet.
After twenty seconds of clenching, let go. Be with the energy. Do not try to control
your consciousness. Let it be. No thing to do.
The Big Draw squeezes the orgasmic energy you have generated into the core of
your being where it shoots up through your heart and out the top of your head, connecting
your energy with all other energies, the THE Energy. This is often the time we become
deeply aware of all of our relations, especially those we love.
About two minutes after the Big Draw, cover your partner with a sheet. Let him be
with his own energy for ten to thirty minutes. Do not touch, move or talk to him. Some
men feel the sheet as a cocoon, some men feel the sheet as a shroud.
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